True Friend

A True Friend

“A friend is someone who sees through you, and still enjoy the view” said Elbert Hubbard. Everyone in life likes to feel important to people. Friendship is what creates our existence, ideas and personality. But what really creates friendship? Is it just proximity? Do we choose our friends? Friendship is a process of freedom and obligation. It is yin and yang. It is just insanity, if one thinks about it. How can a person choose someone whom he just met in school, work, neighborhood, and tell him all his secrets, let him interfere in all his problems and judge him. It is by all means of human logic, insanity, in its purest form.

Once said by Henry J.M. Nouwen in his great book “The road to Daybreak: A spiritual Journey” : when we ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we find that it’s those who, instead of giving advice, solutions or cures, have chosen to share our pain and touch our wound with warm and tender hands. The friend who can be silent with us in a movement of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of powerlessness, that is a friend who cares” .Parents can advise, teachers can teach you the right way but only friends are the ones who can feel, tolerate, and accept you as you are, however they are not obligated to. Friends can shape your motives, ideas, and your personality. How many times friendships change to marriages? People around the world talk about love, write stories about it and are inspired by it. Actually love and friendship are compliments for each other. We choose our partner like we choose our friends. Our friends can kill us or make us. Friends are the ones who like you for who you are, trust you with no guarantees, and help you without waiting for amends and paybacks. Good Friends are the best people one will ever meet. They are the ones who can make us continue through the hardships of our lives. As Sarah Dessen said in her book “someone like you” “Life is an awful, ugly place to not have a best friend”.